Bossy Baby? Being Responsive Without Creating A Tyrant Toddler!

Here’s how to meet all of baby’s needs in a timely way so you have a happier increasingly at peace victual that turns into a wifely and peaceful toddler vs a supercilious baby.

My fellow mama, let us take a sneak peak into something fascinating. We want to squint at this from an volitional perspective. We want to have some scales fall off our eyes.

Are you ready?

A day in the life of a supercilious baby.

Baby is sleeping soundly then wakes up. Mama is not there so victual screams underdone murder until she comes. Mom thinks it’s too early to start the day and tries to soothe him, but victual sniffs that game out quickly and refuses.

Lots of fussing, screaming, and resistance until mom just gives up.

Baby decides it’s time for breakfast. Arms raised up, asks to get in the upper chair. Eats until victual is done, then arches when and demands to get down. Throws supplies sometimes, if mama is distracted and not picking up on the signals.

Baby grabs for the phone and demands access. When mom is rented victual demands to be held or paid sustentation to. Victual doesn’t nap when mom decides, baby only naps when victual wants to nap.

Baby get strolled, pacified, or comforted when victual wants which is whenever victual is bored. Then, victual goes to bed when he wants, not when mom wants.

And if mom tries to put victual in bed surpassing victual wants.. he just resists until mom gives in.

In short… victual decides what happens at every turn, every day

There is a difference between making sure baby’s needs are all met in a timely and loving way… and responding frantically to every move the victual makes considering the victual is the one who directing mom’s unshortened day.

Babies who get to decide every speciality of what happens to them often turn into tyrant toddlers who are difficult to deal with.

Difficult to deal with isn’t the worst of it, though.

The worst part well-nigh having supercilious babies and tyrant toddlers are that moms finger so utterly powerless that they resort to increasingly harsh forms of willpower to cope.

Or they simply wilt super permissive… and the out of tenancy policies gets worse. Considering kids push the boundaries hoping you’ll prove yourself in charge.

How to meet all of baby’s needs without moving into Supercilious Victual syndrome

First, let me reiterate so people don’t slash me in the comments… it’s a mom’s job to make sure all of baby’s needs are met.

• nourishment and nutrition
• sleep
• connection
• a wifely unscratched environment
• attuned parents

I’m sure are more, but those whilom will slosh a mother’s life so we’ll deal with those. This post assumes you are meeting ALL of those without falling prey to stuff a Reactive Mama who only does whatever it is you think victual is crying for.

Proactively feed baby

An easy way for moms to finger increasingly in tenancy of their days is to make sure victual is having full feeds at every feed. If victual has a full on feed at 9am, then you know they aren’t starved at 10am. So if they’re crying and whining for you, it’s likely for flipside reason.

Perhaps they need a nap.

Want a cuddle.

Or finger over stimulated.

Shoving them on the breast to shut them up is not meeting their needs, it’s unquestionably suppressing their communication. Onto my second point well-nigh supercilious babies…

Don’t view crying as a disaster, but as a communication

Crying is a form of liaison for babies.

For adults, crying is indicative of some inner things going on. We cry when we’re stressed, overwhelmed, adapting to something we don’t like, or plane feeling joyful well-nigh something we do like.

But babies? The only way they can get our sustentation is crying. Since they can’t talk. If you finger that you’ve got a supercilious victual who is constantly taxing something from you then ask yourself…

What do I finger compelled to do when victual is crying?

If you view crying as a and you immediately try to feed victual then you’re missing out on learning what victual is ACTUALLY crying about. If you try to feed them and they don’t or snack for a few minutes and stop… they weren’t hungry.

Create a flexible daily routine

Babies who have a resulting routine are often well rested and well fed.

When victual isn’t hungry, isn’t tired, and is getting a lot of cuddles and love from their family, there’s not much to cry about

Be proactive not reactive in unstipulated family life

When moms finger like a leader of the family, they take on a unrepealable authority. With this validity you learn what’s unconfined for family life and what isn’t.

From this place you are worldly-wise to create daily rhythms, routines, and practices that are weightier for everyone in the home. With everyone’s needs stuff met in a timely way – no one left out – but not one person at the expense of another.

You don’t need to jump every time victual makes a grumbling noise. This reinforces that your supercilious victual can mumble and everyone runs to them. This creates a feedback loop that reinforces the very thing driving you nuts.

Instead, meet baby’s needs, be curious well-nigh their communications, but don’t jump and run just considering you’re worried victual will cry.

Even babies can handle some frustration.

Get in touch with your own boundaries so you don’t end up with Postpartum PTSD

I often hear from mothers who are so far at the end of their rope, they don’t plane know what to do.

They finger at the mercy of a little fragmentary victual they love dearly, but…

• they want to escape
• Dread and Doom towards at morning
• being a mom starts to finger like a punishment

I could go on, but won’t. Moms need to be in touch with their own boundaries and not stave taking superintendency of themselves during this pivotal time. If you have no breaks, no help, no sleep, and are swirling with Raging Hormones then you’re in a dangerous spot.

I encourage you to discover your boundaries and start honoring them, mama! With your supercilious victual AND yourself!